Monday, September 17

Turning 60


Anyone who reads my blog regularly knows the anguish I have been experiencing with my monumental birthday that is approaching in two weeks. I think everyone has that one birthday that gives them more grief than others. My 40th was very hard, but nothing like this one.

When we’re young, we have our whole life ahead of us to accomplish our goals and dreams. Many of us have done quite well while other are still struggling to find those hopes and dreams we thought we would have at point in our life. Sitting here right now, it seems like it was just a few short years ago I was 30, but 30 more years have passed. I’ve often wondered if I only knew then what I know now how my life would be compared to what it is now.

Right now the largest percentage of my life is behind me which gives me an unsettling feeling. There are so many more things I want to do, places to visit, and things to learn. Life in itself is a learning experience. I have made many wrong choices but have learned through my mistakes.

I was raised in an extremely strict environment. While my friends were going roller skating or to dances, I was home being a “good girl”. Dancing was the devil!!! I really was a good girl and gave my parents no reason to mistrust me, yet I couldn't’t understand why they were so strict. That is the reason I married young, to escape this smothering control over my life. Little did I know I was jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

Along this wonderful road of life, I have learned many things. Over the next couple weeks, I’ll be sharing many with you. These are in no particular order, just as they come to me at the moment.

1. The only person I can change is myself. Think how hard it is to change anyone of our behaviors. Trying to get someone else to change their behaviors is fruitless.

2. We have different types of friends. Like the joke says, “a good friend will come and bail you out of jail, but a true friend will be sitting there beside you saying, ‘we really screwed up’”. There are other friends that are only there when they need something.

3. Blogging I don’t have to worry if I get the punctuation right or wrong.

4. Family is first and foremost. This I didn’t learn, this is something I have lived my entire life knowing.

5. Time doesn’t heal all wounds. Time will ease the pain, but the scars will be eternally with you. Before I get negative reactions to this comment, let me provide an excellent example. My Mom died in 1980. Yes, it’s easier today than it was right after she died, but that wound will never heal.

6. I am never too old to learn a new skill.

7. It’s important for me to be cognizant of the world events around me. I either read the newspaper daily, watch the evening news, or read the news on the internet. It’s important for me to read different views on the subject so I can formulate my own opinions.

8. When faced with a dilemma, and I decide not to make a decision at the moment, actually I already made the decision to postpone further action until later.

9. When my plate is completely full and running over, and I’m at my wits end on how to proceed, I put all my problems in neat little boxes and put them on a shelf. When I’m in a better frame of mind, I take one box down and deal with only that issue. Years ago I was going through some rough times and this is the advise a health professional/friend gave me to help me cope. I will never forget this. Believe me it works!!!

10. Actors really don’t look like they appear on the big screen or TV. If we had professional make-up artists fixing our face and hair, we too would look that good.

11. The only way for me to lose weight is to reduce the sugar and add activity.

12. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. We have all done or said something really stupid, so go ahead and laugh about it.

13. Trust your first instinct. Being a Libra, I want to weigh and reweigh every possible angle to every possible problem or concern. I have found that my first instinct is always the best.

14. Laugh everyday. Laughter is the best medicine.

15. I am thankful God has not given me everything I have asked for.

16. My dress size does not determine my self worth.

................to be continued



10 comments:

Talk..to..Grams said...

Linda!!! Your going to be 6o right???

Not 80 right????

This is what my friends asked me!!

You have a lot of good years ahead of you! I will 70 next year and I just can't beleive it!!

I am like you and got married YOUNG 17 and turned 18 in 6 days...
my folks were real strick, too!
I was married for almost 23 years and then Gramps wanted to married some one else! He didn't weather the middle years deal....

I like your post today and look forward to your thoughts on stuff in the comming days!

Please don't fret about turning 60!! You will do fine........ Love and Hugs, Carolyn

Theresa said...

I never been a good judge of age, therefore I have friends who are 20 years younger and older than me that I hang out with on a regular basis do to the age they act.

On your list you say you keep up with the latest news, so you should of heard that 70 is the new 50 therefore if my math is correct you will only be 40!!!

Love your list. Have a great night

Talk..to..Grams said...

Now I hope I didn't offend you!! I would hate that so much!!! I just know what the kids and my friends told me when I was 60!! it is hard getting older!!

Now that I will be 70 next year they will say your going to be 70 not 90!! and when I am 90 (if I live that long) they will probably say..... Your 90 and still here!!! Love and Hugs Carolyn

Linda said...

Carolyn, You didn't offend me. I've been neglecting my fellow bloggers because of a new mission I have taken on.

I, too, was 18 when I married and was married for 18 years. That was half of my life.

Linda said...

Teresa, You are so right about my age. I will be 60!!! How did that happen? It's just hard not being able to be as physical as I was when I was 30, dealing with brown spots, middle age spread...I guess I'm just vain....want to stay young.

Susie said...

My best friend and I just had a similar discussion last night. She will be 60 in Dec. It's just hard to believe that so much time has passed.
With age comes wisdom, as my Mom used to say..

Lazy Daisy said...

Oh please, they say 60 is the new 40...you are only as old as you feel and I say live your life to the fullest so when it comes time to die that's all you'll have left to do. Loved your list.

Life experience really adds to wisdom. I admire that you are still taking on new challenges...you Go Girl!

Gill said...

Brilliant words of wisdom, I look forward to the next installment.

Renee's Ramblings said...

Linda- what a great list! I really enjoy getting to hear your perspective on things. Thanks for sharing!

Amazing Gracie said...

Oh, I couldn't agree more!!! This hurdle was a rough one for me because I have seen more physical changes: more wrinkles, gray hair, other things I do not want to talk about! But I know that it's in our attitude, baring serious medical stuff, and even then, laughter is SO good for us! It was rough but I made it! I could croak tonight or live for another twenty-five years. But I firmly believe that it's whatever the good Lord has planned and I can't change that. So, I'm trying to keep my mind active and enjoy whatever I do.
Photo Shop Pro is the only thing on my Christmas list! I hope it's not too hard!!! Keep up the good work, dear one.